There has been a lot of chatter in certain quarters regarding stuff that's been happening this week. I'd like to get the facts out there, so they're all in one easy-to-find place.
I was asked to join a conference call last Sunday with two of the AFA's top leaders; Matt Flavel and Alan Turnage, ostensibly to discuss a book project I'd been working on for the group. It turns out the subject of the conversation was actually my child, who happens to be transgender. It was explained to me that it might be "bad optics" for the AFA to have a member of the leadership with such a family issue. I explained my thoughts on the matter, including the fact that I had no issue with AFA policy when it came to LGBT people as I understood it, and the reasons I was taking a supportive, hands-off approach with my kid, and offered to resign. They agreed it might come to that, but did express regret at the prospect. We agreed to speak again two days later, after the leadership had had a chance to discuss the matter, having heard my thoughts.
Last Tuesday, I was asked to resign, and did so, also explaining that I no longer considered myself bound by the oath of office I took last year at Winternights. I did point out that since there wasn't any actual disagreement on policy, this request must have come from a feeling that the AFA had the right to criticize or even intervene in specific choices made when dealing with one's children, and parenting strategies.
My family comes first, and even if I choose to not support a broadly political "transgender movement" that doesn't mean I'm going to not support my transgender kid. That's not a call the AFA gets to make on my behalf.
It's worth pointing out, since some erroneous information has been spread by a few people (who were not present on the call) that the phrase used was "we're going to ask for your resignation." Now, Matt might have meant "we're going to ask for your resignation from the clergy," but the actual words used were more general, and it was that request to which I acquiesced.
That's about it. I am no longer a member of the AFA, nor am I a member of the clergy. Time to move on.